Would you believe that many men find it difficult to be affectionate to their wives?

Understanding Affection

It’s important to be affectionate. However, we as black men haven’t been taught how to be affectionate in the right way. Then we become parents and are told not to be too affectionate in front of our children. However, I have learned that it’s healthy to be affectionate and allow your children to understand that it is healthy to show love. Children need a model. A healthy model. It’s okay to show love in a healthy manner.

Since I was a child, I have always wanted a family. I wanted to be the best version of a black man for both my children and future wife. I envisioned myself being the model husband and father of the year for my children.

Unfortunately, without proper guidance, I failed tremendously.

I had a misconception of it all. Honestly, my perspective was completely wrong. Seriously, I thought I could buy my family’s love. I expected my wife and children to be satisfied with gifts and other materialistic items. Unfortunately, I was sadly mistaken. That stuff just wasn’t good enough.

It took wisdom from other men, such as my pastor and other spiritual leaders to counsel me. Truly, they have helped save my marriage.

Learning How To Be Affectionate

While on my journey, I had to understand my wife’s love languages. This was foreign to me. I had never heard of this concept before. Learning and understanding love languages gave me a revelation. The love languages taught me how to be more nurturing and affectionate to my wife’s needs. It also taught me how to understand my own. From that moment had become a better husband and father.

Affectionate Foundation

During this transition, I had to be a role model for my children and wife. It was necessary for my children to see a healthy relationship between their mother and father. I wanted my children to have a loving foundation and a better viewpoint. The affection that I will give my wife will strengthen my children’s relationship when they get older. It will teach them how to show to be affectionate in their marriages.

My advice to you is to be the best model for your child, the example that sets the foundation for your legacy.